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Separation Anxiety

Feels happy & Normal

OMG… myself and my partner really thought our world was crumbling all around us with our daughter ‘A’ ( aged 10) . She has severe separation anxiety so bad that she would not even go into the toilet to brush her teeth unless her mum was right next to her, she would turn into someone completely different at the thought of getting left at school for even 10 mins with her mum just two min away.

 

We have been seeing a child psychologist at a cost of £100 per hour but 5 weeks into treatment we are still no further forward.

 

I was at a lost cause and thought all our life’s were ruined and didn’t hold much hope and certainly wasn’t enjoying life as it was a constant battle trying to do the right thing, the easy thing was to always be at ‘A’ side but that was an easy way out ….anyway I stumbled across the Goulding Method- SleepTalk® online.

 

Seven days into it on Tuesday morning ‘A’ got up for school with no crying and off to school we went, now ‘A’ knew we were leaving her at school for 45 mins that morning and we really were not looking forward to it, but everything seemed to go really well, in fact we even left for another hour in the afternoon and it’s been the same today so two great days in a row.

 

I asked ‘A’ what was different about how she felt today and she said ” I feel happy and normal ” which as you can imagine was music to our ears.

 

I can only put it down to the foundation process so I wanted to thank you so so much for giving us our daughter back. There is still some work to be done as she still won’t go to the Park herself or sleep herself but I believe there is help that I can get from a consultant for certain things we would like for our daughter is that correct??

 

Again thank you so much x.      SleepTalk® Parent Qld

 

The Process has been powerful

 

Feedback received from the parents: “They started the Goulding Method – SleepTalk® as they were separating. Dad says he really felt he made a connection with his children at first when he was vigilant with the process. 

 

He is no longer doing SleepTalk® as he is struggling with the changes resulting from the separation. After our discussion, he says he will return to the foundation statement, knowing that it can make a difference. He is feeling that their behaviour is changing daily due to the separation, sometimes for the better, sometimes worse.

 

I have reframed his belief suggesting this is an even more significant reason to provide the secure and routine practice of The Goulding Method – SleepTalk®. Mum has been committed and consistent and has seen some great results. Her mother’s day card from her daughter read “When I am with you I feel loveable”. 

 

Conclusion: The process has been very powerful in this family. The trauma from the past and the current changes to the family unit makes the Goulding Method SleepTalk®  ideal, bringing the parents together in some respects. I will continue to work with the family.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Kim High – Australia 2019 

 

Gratefull for the Gift.

“Mum is rapt with this whole process.  She is more than happy to continue and as other issues arise, implement further statements.

 

I feel so blessed to have had the opportunity to work with these parents.  Both are extremely honest and grounded people and they are so impressed with the Goulding Method- SleepTalk®  and have no hesitation what so ever recommending it to others, and for them to keep it up for many years to come.  

 

They are very grateful for this “gift” for their son and can see the benefits right in front of their eyes.  The only question they have is: “why doesn’t every parent do this?”!

Consultant: NO – 2011

 

Less Intense &  Clingy 

“The mother by this point had been very satisfied with the progress of her child and the second phase of suggestions were given to her that included feeling loved, safe, and calm. 

 

The mother continues to report improvements in her son’s behaviour including lessened intensity of squabbles with the granddad, although she believes that is mostly the grandfather’s fault.

 

She was advised to have her parents join in on the Goulding Method to accelerate results as well as possibly allow the relationship between CS1 and his grandfather to evolve”

 

Professional Intern: NS – UAE