Parent Feedback: “I had read about and felt that my 10-year-old son would greatly benefit from it and found that the process fitted easily into our routine as a family. We have always remained dedicated to keeping the process part of the night-time routine as our consultant advised that this was important.
We found that there was ‘feedback’ within a matter of days as my son began getting up in the morning for school in a really good mood, with plenty of energy. Other results included the fact that my son’s teacher and head teacher noted that he had been writing more in his written work and also that he was more confident with his math’s – even asking to come in at playtime to do his math’s work!
The behaviour change that had led to this improvement in the classroom – he was now beginning to feel self-confident – also meant that he didn’t feel the need to behave in an attention-seeking manner, which could be seen as disruptive.
As my son became more confident and self-assured, it was noticeable that he began to socialise better with his peers, and the best example of this is that he began to be invited to more parties. And we are now presenting some specific ‘suggestions’ as my son is working through important exams.
We have truly found that Goulding Method- has been a tool that has been easy to fit into our routine and one that has made a huge difference to our family’s life. There is no doubt that the program is “working”. When my son said: “Mum, everything has been great since 3 weeks ago!”
He didn’t quite know why it was – but we knew. It was 3 weeks prior to this, that we had started the program! We continue to work with this process now and I would highly recommend it to any parent of any child. The results really do speak for themselves.”
Consultant: Jenny Harrison – UK
Nail Bitting – Eating – Education – Calmness.
After 8 weeks of the The Goulding Method- Foundations Phase was strictly followed everyday alternatively between both parents where huge improvements has taken place as follows:
Although eating wasn’t a major concern, his eating habits showed obvious improvement. His motor skills has improved massively to the extent that the mother forgot there was this concern in the ﬁrst place and when I drew her attention she answered that he walks perfectly well and I didn’t notice anything not normal anymore. His basketball coach is complicating his performance now and his ability to achieve goals in the game.
His study and homework time became no problem at all as the mother herself came more relaxed and was able to give choices and empathise with her son with the ability to choose her battles.
He is doing his homework very well and that put more conﬁdence in the mothers heart toward the capabilities of her son. He became highly conﬁdent in class, reporting bullying cases and no more acting out in class.
Teachers also commented that his is now a happy child. His ability to stay calm become more sustained and he manages very well to control his anger after a very short period of time. His relationship with his parents became stronger and empathetic and his relationship with his little sister is full of lots of play time.
As the nail biting was clearly a sign of anxiety and before being a habit so I introduced an additional primary statement: Just after one week this statement made a great difference with the parents, especially the father as he was participating in the Goulding Method 0 regularly and it was healing for him as well.
The parents also reported stronger bonding with their son, who has starting to express himself more frequent rather than being so introvert and they were glad to talk about emotions and feelings rather than avoiding them.
Consultant: NT – UAE 2017
Home and School Issues.
“Observation of ‘J’ includes he has improved in all areas at home and at school . Parents declined to do another Assessment as they felt just speaking the words from the Foundation programme helped even though it was not consistent.”
Accredited Consultant & Trainer: Marilyn Colvin Boon. Qld 2013
Education and Nail Bitting.
“The mother reports that there has been significant overall improvement for ‘Y’. He is showing more life in his day to day activities. His Maths have improved, he is better in managing his stress from school work without throwing temper at doing difficult Maths.
There is an improvement in his confidence regarding Study and he has proved to himself that he can do better. Being able to overcome his carelessness at study has helped to boost his confidence in it. However his writing has declined by 15% but this is due to the new demands at school as they have started writing compositions and he is adjusting to this new demand.
He has stopped nail biting totally and his day to day happiness has improved by 50%. He is seemingly happier and was able to remain calm and control his emotions, in particularly his anger better. His ability to work alone: Improved by 40%.
He is learning to do his homework / spelling without supervision. He is also able to play on his own and take interest in reading his books on his own. His behaviour towards Parents has improved 30%. There are less tension over school work and he is now more willing to listen and learn when I teach or guide him through certain issues.
I realised that not only his behaviour is now better towards me, I feel that I no longer get angry with him as often as in the past. We are now able to talk things out.
The end results: I am very pleased with the results. During this short span of 6 months, many of my pressing concerns were resolved. Namely nail biting, carelessness with schoolwork, improving focus or concentration at school, being able to sit still at dining table to finish his meals. My son is now not only able to finish all his food during meal time, he is able to finish his meal with lesser time.”
Accredited Consultant: Kilyn Liong – Singapore 2018
Heading: School, Behavior and Education.
“The parents feedback is that they can see a substantial difference and ‘P’ is already about 60% more positive going to school. The biggest change seems to be the behavior at school though, where the feedback is that ‘P’ has turned into a very lively student, when before the feedback has often been that she needs to speak up more.
Conclusion: The parents both feel the changes with ‘P’ and her feedback is now positive. She goes to her little brother when he cries telling him: “all feelings are ok!” Let’s see what the next couple of weeks will bring but this looks promising to me.
Trusting the mum’s gut feeling on what the message needs to address payed off again. I loved the fact that mum was looking at the root cause of the effects. The result seems to prove us right. I am happy that ‘P’ found her confidence again.”
Accredited Consultant – Cornelia Dahinten – Zurich 2019
Physical Issues and Education.
“After completing the mind profile questionnaire, it was great to see that ‘N’ had made improvements over the last 6 weeks. The parents noted that particularly the negative self-talk had reduced and that ‘N’ was much better at homework now that school has gone back, in fact he was now asking to do homework.
Working alone is still an issue and I reminded the parent that ‘N’ now has more skills and they may need to give him the opportunity to use some of them rather than continue to scaffold him to such a great extent. The parent agreed that this was probably the case and said he would trial giving him some tasks to complete on his own whilst loosely supervising him.
The parent noted an improvement in ‘N’ gross and fine motor skills and there was improvement in his core strength. His concentration has also improved and this was assisting in his ability to do his school work and homework and he has also been more spontaneous showing affection to his parents.
Primary Area of Need
‘N’ was a lot calmer since the introduction of The Goulding Method- and his anger was also improving, and his self-esteem had also improved. The primary area of need for ‘N’ was around managing his anger and associated emotions.
We felt that if he was able to remain calm and understand what was happening within him, he would be better able to respond to his environment. Suggestions were selected to reinforce the need for ‘N’ to remain calm and to further reinforce that he has the answers within himself
‘N’ has made great progress with The Goulding Method . It’s been a very slow and steady change and his parents are very supportive of the process and they have really noticed the changes within him.
I feel that ’N’ needs the additional time to full understand and digest the suggestions embedded within the Goulding Method – but that once he’s taken it on, it will penetrate and resonate quite strongly with him. His parents expect to continue The Goulding Method – for some time yet as they feel that we can make some great progress over the next few months and years.
Accredited Consultant: Mary Lynch NSW 2011
Parents Feedback: “Very positive feedback as ‘A’ has changed school without any problem. He loves his new class. All marks are in the positive range now, great eating habits and he can handle his emotions, stopped nail chewing.
‘A’ has moved from a problematic and annoying behaviour pattern to a much more sociable, more patient state in general, with a lot of good feedback from the elementary school teachers.
The parents are calm now, less stress at home. The process has changed their attitudes too to ‘A’. They are satisfied with the decision changing school as he is more open and able to communicate his feelings.”
Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Marianne Lampert. Hungary 2014
“Despite not completing all areas of this case study, I do believe ‘C’ made progress. Her confidence with doing her homework improved and she was attempting it independently. At school she was more resilient in dealing with things that in the past would have upset her.
‘C’ made some good decisions at school, where she asserted herself in a positive confident way. A much more confident and less anxious child than when we started the Goulding Method –
Accredited Consultant: Marian Daish – Victoria 2017
Improvement on learning ability and more loving towards people around and has stop the nail biting and skin tearing issues. He deals separation anxiety better now and can accept the father leaving him for work.
Sibling rivalry has also improved and the younger daughter is more understanding and negotiable. The mother said it has been very challenging for her to keep up with The Goulding Method every day. It needs a lot of perseverance and consistent.
Accredited Consultant Jen Li Soo – Singapore 2018
Mum is generally very pleased with the signs of progress of ‘A’ in the past few weeks since the Goulding Method – was introduced. She sees his behaviour changing in the right direction.
She believes it is a combination of different factors, but believe is definitely helping. Mum reports:
- She enjoys very much the experience and it became a good habit for her. Generally, she has been very consistent since the beginning.
- ‘A’ wakes up in the morning in a better mood, not grumpy like before.
- He’s more comfortable in school and doesn’t complain about it anymore.
- Dad did The Goulding Method- only once as he feels uncomfortable to sit in the dark and talk to his son while seeping, “it doesn’t feel natural”.
My conclusion: The changes seen are great showing The Goulding Method- has been implemented correctly by the parent and the Foundation Statements accepted by ‘A’. According to the second: Mind Profile document, the primary area of need would be: ‘Academic’ and ‘Confidence’ in general, but Mum is now happy the way “A” is and prefers to continue with Foundation statement for now instead of trying specific suggestions offered. Mum is aware she can come back to me later when she feels starting Level 2.
Accredited Consultant: Maguelonne Rousseau – 2016 – Singapore
Behaviour and Education.
Mum is generally pleased with the signs of progress of ‘L’ in the past few weeks since the Goulding Method – was introduced. The process has been implemented correctly and consistently by parents (missed 5 times in total and not even in the row). Mum reports:
1) Even though behaviour is better, she still feels that he lacks empathy towards family and friends and is generally worried about his social behaviour, especially now he’s going to enter primary school.
2) He seems to take frustration and anger a bit better but showed few times signs of being more vengeful (instead of hitting a friend or brother straight away, can control him-self more often but then keep some resentment that shows later).
3) Mum is also doing the process consistently with the little brother since the beginning.
According to the Mind Profile document number 2, the primary areas of need are Behaviour, Academic and Emotional. We agreed on continuing the Foundation Statements for now and over Christmas period and January, and later starts a specific suggestion chosen in the General section that we have adapted.
Change of attitude regarding his behaviour and positive attitude. Mum is excited to soon start the specific suggestions!
Accredited Consultant: Maguelonne Rousseau – 2016 – Singapore