Has stopped wetting the Bed
Comments from Father: “I love that she (mother) goes in each night to give my children positive messages. I can see improvements within the family dynamic.
My children stopped wetting the bed, and my daughter wakes very happily and will re-settle in the night in her own bed if she wakes.
My son is also improving in personal confidence, but still lacking in social confidence. We will continue.”
Accredited Consultant: Anneliese Luz – Vic 2019
Bed-wetting had completely stopped
5th consultation: Bed-wetting had completely stopped and he was washing and dressing himself happily.
6th consultation: ‘J’ presented with a slight case of over confidence. So once again, after discussions, a change to the process was agreed upon and he is now a well-adjusted, normal six-year-old.
Thanks, in my opinion to The Goulding Method –
Notable Improvements in Bed wetting
In summary there were notable improvements in sleep, bedwetting, eating, self-security, confidence and self-esteem, general well-being, communication, studies, and communication and relationships with parents within 3 months.
Both parents remained fully committed to the program throughout the whole 3 months, alternating the evenings that they said the words to their child and used some of the positive wording in the daytime to gain optimal benefits for their child.
2012 Jenny Harris – UK – consultant.
Bed Wetting gone
“The mother began with The Goulding Method- on the 16th of September 2013. After a few weeks of the Foundation process the bedwetting was less. After 3 months of The Goulding Method- every night their daughter was dry at night and during the day – until today.
There was no need of any further assistance. Her ability to speak and to count was improving a lot.
She was more calm, more relaxed and just improving as a person. The parents are really happy & excited about the process and the big improvements! Even in school the teacher mentioned the improvments. ”
Accredited Consultant & Trainer: Nicole Wackernangel – Zurick 2013
Dry at Night
“Had a very positive result, her sleep improved by 90% and so did her ability to remain calm and deal with anger. She is very affectionate with all family members including her sister who previously was scratched and bitten by her daily.
She has also become completely toilet trained and dry at night. Speech was also an issue, so after introducing additional ‘specific’ suggestions, the educators commented at her day care:
“She has really found her voice and become confident and outgoing”. The parents will continue to use The Goulding Method- to help her navigate her way through future changes and make good choices.”
Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018
Stopped Bed Wetting altogether
A single mum was referred to me by a psychologist and presenting with a very unhappy (9 year old) boy suffering bed wetting, anxiety and also coming from a domestic violent family situation.
B had started bedwetting when he was 5 which became worse at the age of 7 when their family separated and his father moved out with his new partner. ‘B’ has two brothers, one older, age 12 (mum describing him as very angry with violent outbursts like his father) and the other younger, age 7 (mum describing him as very withdrawn, quiet and anxious).
Neither of the other brothers had bedwetting problems. Mum wanted to specifically start working with her 9 year old child, B, to help address the bedwetting straight away. Mum described the family situation as very toxic, creating difficulty in communicating with the boys’ father.
Visitation had been granted for the father to see his boys once a fortnight on the weekend. Mum described ‘B’s father has very aggressive towards ‘B’ but not to the other boys and she felt this was probably due to ‘B’ being most like his mother in mannerism and appearance.
Mum described the father as aggressive, violent and intimidating; making it very challenging to get the father involved and participate in the Sleep Talk for Children process (we found another way to work around this).
The other challenge was that mum noticed whenever the boys returned from their fathers’ place, they would start acting out and their behaviour was out of control (fights, violent outbursts), which took at least 2 days to return to some kind of normality.
Mum also described herself as being extremely anxious and hyper vigilant but felt it more important to work with her boys first and then she would make steps to help herself.
We commenced the Goulding Method – Foundation Phase and within six weeks ‘B’s bedwetting had reduced down significantly by 70% and ‘B’ was demonstrating less levels of anxiety by behaving in a much more relaxed way around people.
As we progressed through the Goulding Method- Sleep Talk it wasn’t until it was 2 months down the track that mum had noticed the older boy was starting to show signs of less aggression.
At first this didn’t make sense because she was only working with ‘B’, however, apparently the boys bedrooms were all next to each other and the eldest, we will call him ‘A’ had been listening to mum implement the process through his bedroom wall.
It wasn’t until a few weeks later on, ‘A’ approached mum and asked mum if he could do the same thing for him as she was doing for 9 year old ‘B’. This encouraged mum, even though she was exhausted, to start the process with ‘A’ the 12 year old and also the youngest, 7 year old boy.
As mum progressed through implementing the Goulding Method process for all boys an incredibly amazing family transformation took place.
The end result; ‘B’ 9 year old boy stopped bedwetting altogether!!
B became more confident and settled. While mum was extremely impressed with this, it was actually the 12 year old she was over the moon about because she had not expected his behaviour to turn around and change completely at all from aggressive outbursts to confident, happy pre-teen.
Her 12 year old ‘A’ started taking pride in himself, his self-esteem and confidence increased and his behaviour flipped over into a calmer and much more mature outlook.
Mum described ‘A’ as feeling much better about himself and being the man of their house. His violent outbursts stopped completely and mum watched him change completely on so many levels.
The outcome is one of the most amazing ones I have seen in my time as a Goulding Method practitioner and to see 3 boys plus a mum turn everything around within 3 months is just one short of a miracle in my book!
Everyone in the family is happier and calmer within the family home and within themselves. The youngest became more confident and settled and his anxiety levels reduced.
While the fathers’ home environment remained quite toxic, we came up with a helpful strategy to continue the process. Mum recorded her voice so the boys could to listen to her voice while they were at their fathers’ place.
Under the current circumstances, the visitation continues to have many challenges and while the boys continued to return from their fathers’ place in a more anxious state to begin with, as time progressed, they were all able to become more self-regulating with their emotions and quickly settled back into mum’s environment without it getting out of hand and at a much more manageable level than ever before.
After all of these outstanding changes mum felt ready to have some hypnotherapy for her own anxiety and hypervigilance. Mum’s changes also impacted on the boys in a very positive way.
As mum improved throughout her sessions, this also created an even calmer environment for the entire family. Her boys reacted and responded to mum in a calmer settled way again.
Most importantly, the boys and mum feel much more stability, safety and confidence within themselves in mums’ home, giving them a nice feeling of security.
Nicole Lane – Accredited Goulding Method- Consultant
No longer needing Pull-ups at night.
“During my first conversation with the mother following her initial visit, she told me how the father had initially been sceptical that the son would be ‘hearing’ them talk whilst he was asleep.
To receive proof that the words were being heard he had wanted to slip in the line “daddy is an astronaut” in the hope that it would crop up in conversation, though, luckily, the mother adamantly refused to let him.
However, this was not needed, as the very next day, only 3 days into the process, a friend of the mother overheard the son repeating the foundation statement, word for word, when playing on his own! This gave the parents even more confidence in the process and didn’t miss a night.
When speaking with the mum at her second visit she was thrilled with the results. She said that he had had fewer aggressive instances and the times when he had lost his temper he was quick to regain control and each outburst was much shorter-lived. His behaviour at school had improved and the mum hadn’t been called in to see the headmaster at all.
She said that they had attended a parents evening at school where his new teacher had said to them “the boy I thought was going to walk through those doors never did”!
The teacher asked them if anything had changed at home or if they knew why this might be the case, so they mentioned The Goulding Method- and the teacher was very interested to learn more!
One behaviour that had changed, without the mother even realising is that previously to doing The Goulding Method – , he would wake EVERY night, after about an hour, soaked through with sweat.
So the mum would need to change his pyjama top and bed sheet. However, she realised during our second meeting that this had not happened for a long time, which she felt must be a direct result of the process.
The area that the parents wished to work on was to get ‘J’ out of night-time pull-ups and therefore being able to stay dry throughout the night.
They had one concern, which had been the reason for them not tackling the issue sooner, which was that they only had one toilet in the house, which was downstairs, and at the far end of the house. Because of this they didn’t want him going to the bathroom in the night. Therefore they put a chamber pot in his bedroom.
On the 5th night of using the bed wetting suggestion, he used the chamber pot!
At our third meeting, 10 weeks after beginning to use this suggestion, the mum informed me that he was out of pull-ups and seemed to alternate between waking up to wee in the chamber pot and going through the entire night without needing a wee.
He had had only two accidents, but they had only been small accidents as he had then woken up and got to the chamber pot. ’J’ was no longer needing to wear pull-ups at night.
They chose to carry on with this suggestion, which I inserted between the foundation statements, and they were happy that the pull-ups issue was under control.
They felt that his behaviour had improved considerably and felt confident that the foundation statements were addressing this issue.”
Accredited Consultant: Rachel Packard – UK – 2016
First dry night after only 5 days
Three areas of need for ‘B’ were identified by Mum – his speech, behavior and toileting (bed wetting).
Even though she felt his communication with others, together with his self- confidence, would benefit from improved speech, she explained that as his younger brother had begun to have dry nights and didn’t want to wear night nappies, she believed this was of more importance for ‘B’.
Whereas before ‘B’ was not concerned about wearing a night nappy, she felt that now he wanted not to wet his nappy each night. After discussing what the possible reason/s maybe concerning why ‘B’ had bed wetting, eg. medical, fears, authority figure/s, a specific statement was chosen as the support statement.
By advising Mum that with Dad’s involvement in giving The Goulding Method- to B, not only will it help to accelerate the process, but it will help him with his bed wetting problem.
First dry night!
After only five nights of giving the supporting statement, Mum sms to say that ‘B’ had his first dry night! Mum was so excited for her son, as well ‘B’ also – me too!
Consultant: Jenny Harrison – UK