The Goulding Method

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A simple, safe method for parents helping children establish emotional intelligence, loving attachment and acceptance.

Anxiety and separation

My husband and I have made it our mission to find a solution to help our 5 year old daughter with her anxiety and separation issues. She is naturally a highly sensitive and obedient child (which affects her self confidence and ultimately other areas of her development). The main issue we really wanted to help her address is separation, particularly at kindergarten, in order to help her deal better with separation when she starts school next year.

We read quite a few books that suggested difference theories and strategies, we sought counsel from several professionals like GPs, Teachers, other parents, Kinaesiologists and Psychologists then we discovered SleepTalk and Joane Goulding. In just a few short weeks we started to see amazing results, the initial results where not the ones we were looking for. Our daughter started to display voluntary and positive signs of affection which she used to sometimes hold back, she also seemed more relaxed. Another consultation with Joane and ongoing use of the SleepTalk process brought us to the goal we’ve been aiming for – last week we were preparing to go to kinder and I was prepared for the usual anxiety and sadness with the lead up to saying goodbye.

I had been talking with Isabella during the day (apart from SleepTalk) about her making a decision to stop crying when we say goodbye at kinder. I said “when you’re ready, it would be a good idea to do it”. This morning she said she’ll try, a few minutes later she looked at me and with great certainty she said “I am going to be happy today and not cry when we say goodbye”. – one can only imagine how emotional and excited I was to hear this. I congratulated her and she did it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Both days that week she did exactly that, I believe she had her breakthrough and she is so excited and proud of herself, she continued to remind me of her success.
YIPPEE!!!

When I picked her up, she said she stayed happy all day. She’s still very excited about her success and you can only imagine how I feel.

We are dedicated to this process and continue to use it with both our daughters to help them with the natural anxieties and behavioural areas needing attention. The wonderful benefits of SleepTalk is that it is non threatening to our children (unlike the other interventions we tried), they don’t even know we’re doing it J. Also it involves us, which we love and it is cost effective. I really hope that this information will help other parents to give SleepTalk a try, when committed to it, they will be amazed and proud of the results.

Thank you Joane for your passion and interest in sharing such an amazing tool for parents to use. Our children are priceless and so is SleepTalk.

Natalie Cossar